Say it

Before you read, I want to ask you a question!

Did you hurt somebody?

Yes, take a moment and then answer. I don't want you to feel bad because you're a human and humans make mistakes! Different kinds of mistakes and harming others can be one of them.

There are 3 types of hurting others:

1- Physically: It's when you physically hurt someone by hitting him/her or any other way that might cause a physical pain.

2- Mentally: It's when you argue with them -typical human behavior-

You may say something that you might not mean or maybe you do and it might wound their soul.

3- Emotionally: It's when you neglect someone or make them feel hated or left behind.

Almost all of us experienced one of these pains, either as the abuser or the victim. I'm not writing that to let you know more about your pain or make you feel bad because you  hurt someone. I'm actually targeting the "abuser" .. Someone like us, creatures full of flaws.

Before I start explaining more I want you to ask yourself a question.

What shall I do to make myself and the victim feel better?

If you couldn't find the answer, I'll tell you what I do to feel better. It's really simple and nice but if you're cold hearted person or stubborn then close the page because what I'm about to say needs courage and a loving heart.

It's "The Art of Apologizing" just leave the art and let's focus on apologizing because I didn't master that art yet.

Apologizing: 'To offer an apology or excuse for some fault, insult, failure, or injury.'

Fault and insult.. Hurting someone mentally.

Failure.. Hurting someone emotionally.

Injury.. Hurting someone physically.

So apologizing covers the three kinds of pain.

When you step on someone's side and make them feel bad don't hesitate to apologize, let your pride behind you because you have to admit your mistakes! Denying them will make matters worse for you and the other person. They'll stop trusting you and they might hate you; nobody wants to be hated! (Unless you're a rap songwriter and want to include "haters make me famous" then you should meet a therapist.)

Apologizing shows the other person that you truly love them and care about them, don't hope that they'll forget and move on because they won't! Even if you apologized they won't forget but they'll remember that you admitted your fault after hurting them and that would make them respect you more.

BUT! Apologizing can work against you when you repeat your mistakes and you keep on apologizing. You can't say "sorry" and hope things work right because apologizing is a word that needs to be followed by an action! You must show the other person that you're really sorry and you're willing to make things better.

At the end I'll repeat what I said earlier, we're not flawless and it's okay to make mistakes but it's not okay to deny the mistake and keep on repeating it! Promise yourself to be a better person, a person that give his best to makes himself -first- and others feel better.

Try to master this kind of art..

Say I'm sorry before it's too late..

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Hope and Love 

Maitha the Parrot